Ditch the generic "hey, what's up?" and opt for sending a personalized message. Putting thought into your initial greeting shows you're interested and that you've taken time to read through her profile. *Don't refer to past conversations (i.e., if she brought up how much she loves pizza, don't ask if she wants to grab one sometime). Instead of appearing like you remember details about her, it will seem like you only care about getting in contact with her again so you can ask her out.* *If your conversation was brief or sporadic before, consider reintroducing yourself ("I hope I'm not bugging you but just wanted to say hi since we haven't talked in awhile"). And if she doesn't respond to your first message, don't keep trying to contact her over and over again. She will get annoyed with you for not respecting her boundaries.* *Don't ask someone out immediately. Everyone appreciates some time to chat before an invitation is extended (and if she seems like she's in the mood to talk, wait for her to bring it up).* Once things are flowing smoothly, say something like this: "Hey [first name], I was thinking about all the reasons why dating would be awkward for me...I never know what to say during dinner or how long of a hug is appropriate afterwards (is there ever really an appropriate amount of time?). But after rambling on for awhile, I realized dating can be fun! So maybe I'll give it a shot..." *The best dating advice is to play things by ear and be yourself. Silly quirks about yourself are often endearing. If you're the type of person who has a knack for making people laugh, incorporate a few jokes into your message. And if your sense of humor isn't something that comes easily to you, don't worry. A lot of successful relationships have been born from people being themselves.* So rather than asking her out right off the bat, keep in mind these dating tips when attempting to start up a conversation again after time apart: be personal, take things step-by-step, and stay confident. When she feels interested in getting together with you again, she will let you know. The article above was written by dating coach for men . It is informative and accurate...to the best of my knowledge. I enjoyed this blog post so much that I decided to share it with you all. All quotes were taken directly from datingtipsformenonline.blogspot.com authored by dating expert David DeAngelo . A lot of dating advice/psychology for guys is really general, outdated, or just plain wrong - but not his stuff! He's been spot on with everything I've ever read from him, and has a great track record on helping others attract women naturally. It helps that he's quite confident in his own skin too In fact, some have called him [removed]y and while he can come across as such, he is in fact a social introvert . - Not only dating advice, but also general psychology and social concepts To find out more about dating expert David DeAngelo click on the link below... Thanks again for reading my blog post. I hope you enjoyed it. Have a wonderful day! And don't forget to leave some feedback through the poll/comments if you haven't done so already ***Hey , what's up? I'm Tom. If you're dating online, chances are that at some point someone has sent you a generic "what's up" message. Ditch the generic "hey, what's up?" and opt for sending a personalized message. Putting thought into your initial greeting shows you're interested and that you've taken time to read through her profile. Personalize it by including something from her profile in your opener. For example, if she played softball in college mention how much you enjoy watching baseball games on the weekends too. This will give you an opportunity to stand out while also getting a conversation started—which is always harder than people think! If she doesn't have anything listed about what she does in her free time then go ahead and ask a dating question. What's better than asking an open-ended dating question? It will get the ball rolling so you can continue talking. If she doesn't respond to your first message don't fret! Sometimes people are busy or they need a little nudge so try sending a funny dating meme or one of our top dating articles (link below). If you see potential in someone, make it easy for them to reach out too. Include your email address in your dating profile because some women may want to send you something more private than what they'd put on their dating profile. Make sure when she does send that message that you respond right away! You never know if she's waiting around for a response! Other dating articles you may want to send: 5 Best First Messages for Online Dating | 5 Things Women Secretly Want on a First Date | How to Make a Great Impression on Your First Date | What Cute Little Old Ladies Teach Us About Cuddling***Hey , what's up? I know dating can be exhausting these days, but I'm glad you've found your way to my profile! I realize this is a dating site and not everyone here is looking for something serious. But even if our profiles don't say "married, monogamous" or "single, open-minded", there are other ways to make an impression on someone special. Personalizing the first message you send is one of those simple dating tips that will help set you apart from the crowd. Sending a personalized greeting makes it clear that you're interested in getting to know her rather than just sending out mass dating messages. Even if she didn't take the time to read through all of your profile details, she'll notice that you did. And that's dating advice worth taking every time! I realize dating can be exhausting these days, but I'm glad you've found your way to my profile! Just like us dating professionals, dating site users are looking for love and connection, although it may not always seem that way at first glance.