As a dating coach to single women, I hear a lot of dating woes. One that always catches my ear is the issue of being "too nice." "He never texts me back," they say. Or worse: "I'm so tired of being the one who makes all the plans and does all the asking out. Where are all these elusive guys? And how can I meet them?" In short, many single ladies have been conditioned by society to think their role in dating is as an innocent bystander, one whom guys seek out for attention. As you know from your own dating experiences, that couldn't be further from reality! It's not unusual for a woman to wait three months between first dates with men she met online. In fact, dating coach Lisa Concepcion, the creator of dating blog InLisaConcepcion.com , says women should interrogate their dating habits as soon as they start dating seriously after a long break from the dating scene. "If you're going on multiple dates per week and having fun, but not meeting the One you want for a husband, it's likely your dating style has been conditioned by society," she says. "You may need to change your approach." This conditioning concludes that women don't have to go after what they want because someone will come along who does all that for them! There's no need to navigate dating or relationships yourself; just sit back and wait for Prince Charming (while sipping on some Starbucks). This dating game is more like hide 'n seek, and women are trying to stay hidden. They don't think it's necessary for them to actively pursue dating. As Concepcion puts it, "The dating advice that I give all of my clients is, you can sit there with your hand down your pants labia but eventually you're just going to get rug burn on your labia." I know this dating tip is hard! You've been conditioned by society to believe he should be the one asking you out every time you want to meet up with him. But once you release yourself from this socialization, meeting quality men will become easier than ever before! Here's what I recommend: 1) Make dating a priority. Start dating the moment you decide to meet someone special. Sure, dating may seem like an added task on top of your already-packed schedule, but meeting quality guys isn't just something that will fall into your lap—you have to go after it! And don't wait until you're "ready" or "have time." Getting ready for dating is dating. It's not preparing yourself mentally to date; it's dating itself. 2) Do all five steps of The Attraction Equation . The best way I know to get any man to want more with you is by using key components of what I call The Attraction Equation , also known as my proprietary discovery in dating science (after ten years of