Even after 10 years it seems to be hard for us girls to get over the ex. We want our new love interest to know about him, but not in great detail. If you are dating someone new and things are going well, don't talk about that guy who was in your life before! He is nothing more than a shadow that must disappear somehow if you want your dating life to take off again. If he calls, don't panic For some reason this might be one of the hardest parts when dating after long time. One day (or night) you will get a call from an unknown number and immediately think: It's HIM! You prepare yourself for whatever might come next: I miss you, let's meet up ... ! If you get a call from an unknown number, relax. As long as he doesn't have the same number, it's obviously not him! It might be your competition He missed you so much that he gave up everything? Sounds like a fairy tale but unfortunately it could also mean something else. It could be someone who wants to take over his 'old' territory again and is calling all the girls with whom this guy had been in touch before. So don't panic and remember: dating after a break-up takes time and patience! "3 dating mistakes women make!" If one of your dating resolutions for 2012 is to date more often, here are 3 dating tips for women who want to make dating fun again! 1. Get rid of your dating dilemmas Take some time to figure out what you want from dating, it might be good for you to write down the answers on a piece of paper somewhere or in a private dating diary where no one can see them. You could also go and talk about it with a friend who is going through the same things as you are. Don't let dating become a guessing game because that's when dating turns into a nightmare! Come up with clear dating goals before taking action and find someone who ticks all your boxes instead of wasting time dating someone who isn't right for you at all. 2. Get ready to date again... now! How long do you think after a break-up is dating too soon? If you still think 7 months is a long dating period after a break up, time to update your dating knowledge! In my dating experience, dating too soon means dating someone who isn't the right one for you. He might be nice and funny but it doesn't mean he has what it takes to become the love of your life. 3. Love yourself first! For some reason we don't do that in our 'real' lives nearly enough as we should do in dating. No matter how many years ago your last relationship ended: dating starts with loving yourself before anyone else will love you. When you know exactly what you want from a partner and when dating someone new, make sure you tell him about all the great things you want to experience dating. Dating after a long time is like dating with an open map. You don't know what lies ahead of you but it's definitely worth exploring! Whether you are dating or planning your first date, dating with no expectations but only the wish to enjoy every moment makes dating truly exciting again! So let go of all dating dilemmas and remember: dating happiness starts with loving yourself... first!" Note: This article was written by a professional writer and edited by a professional editor via @TIPSTERS on Twitter/Google Talk. Copying this article without permission from TIPSTERS may result in lawsuits from them if they discover it being used elsewhere for monetary gains or any other reasons. This article is distributed under a Creative Commons license. *** Respect your date enough to not talk about the ex. You already know dating is uncomfortable, so why make it more uncomfortable than it has to be? Sharing dating histories with strangers can really backfire. One of you may feel like he or she isn't being treated fairly. Worse, they could think you are still hung up on your ex—and that's just awkward. You don't need to share all the intimate details of your past relationships with everyone you meet. If dating starts getting serious, then please by all means do share stories about whom and where and when. Until then, keep it light! Avoid talking about your exes with anyone who might see your date again: coworkers, mutual friends or family members (even if they think it's "cute" how much you still miss your ex). It might seem like dating, but it could be stalking. Take dating slow. Take dating seriously. And take dating privately. After all, no one wants to feel like the subject of office water cooler gossip or a trophy piece on someone's Facebook page—do they? If he or she brings up an ex during the first meeting, do not assume that there is chemistry with this person right away because you are both "so alike." Everyone has something in common with their former partners, even if many years have passed since there was any type of romantic relationship between them. Don't get too excited having something in common with another person when you are getting to know