We've had it drilled into our heads that playing hard to get is the way to land Mr. Right—or, at least, Mr. Refuses to Meet My Friends Even Though We’ve Been Dating for Six Months. "But by acting hard-to-get, when in fact what you truly crave is closeness, consistency and stability, you stand a good chance of attracting the exact person who is least likely to make you happy—someone who prefers to keep you at arm's length," say Rachel Heller and Dr. Amir Levine, authors of "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—And Keep!—Love." Instead of playing games with your dating partner, learn to appreciate the qualities you desire in a relationship. “By being honest about what kind of relationships or dating style you are open to, you increase the chances that the people who are attracted to you will be more compatible,” Levine says. Don't doubt yourself—even if your dating history isn't stellar. “You learn from experience and not all experiences work out well," he says. "But there is nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you don't repeat them over and over again." Go ahead and reveal your vulnerabilities – it may make dating less scary and help you attract someone better suited for an authentic relationship with you. "As we get older and become more secure with ourselves, it gets easier to be vulnerable and say 'This is who I am; this is what I like; these are the things I want,' because it's not about proving anything. It's just about being who you are." "Be who you are" by dating coach Jacey Verdicchio for "Ladies' Home Journal". Copyright © 2015 Meredith Corporation. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC. About me: Hi there! I'm Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach for smart single men. Want more dates? Get my dating advice here ⇨ http://www.evanmarckatz.com/coaching/ ⇦ Come on over! And while you’re at it, grab my free dating gift to you: http://www.evanmarckatz.com/gift/ Links adapted for the abridged version of article above: Lead in: We’ve had it drilled into our heads that playing hard to get is the way to land Mr. Right—or, at least, Mr. Refuses to Meet My Friends Even Though We’ve Been Dating for Six Months Lead with quote: “But by acting hard-to-get, when in fact what you truly crave is closeness, consistency and stability, you stand a good chance of attracting the exact person who is least likely to make you happy—someone who prefers to keep you at arms length,” say Rachel Heller and Dr. Amir Levine, authors of "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—And Keep!—Love." Lead with quote from dating experts: “You learn from experience and not all experiences work out well," he says. "But there is nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you don't repeat them over and over again." Lead with quote from dating expert: As we get older and become more secure with ourselves, it gets easier to be vulnerable and say 'This is who I am; this is what I like; these are the things I want,' because it's not about proving anything. It's just about being who you are. Lead with quote from dating expert: “You can make dating less scary by…being honest about what kind of relationships or dating style you are open to,” Levine says. Lead with quote from dating coach: "As a dating coach for smart single men, my advice to dating hopefuls is simple: Put yourself out there! This does not mean you send your resume to every company that has an opening even if your qualifications do not match exactly what they're looking for. But where there's an opportunity to meet new people, do it! Don't doubt yourself—even if your dating history isn't stellar. “You learn from experience and not all experiences work out well," he says. "But there is nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you don't repeat them over and over again." Be who you are" by dating coach Jacey Verdicchio for "Ladies' Home Journal". If you want more dating advice like this article, be sure to sign up for my free dating newsletter at http://www.evanmarckatz.com/newsletter/. That way, you'll also get exclusive dating tips along with special offers I only share via email. And did I mention dating advice? Of course dating advice. With my dating advice newsletter, you'll get dating advice as well as special offers and exclusive deals (only for subscribers). Don't forget to share this article with friends and family! <---------------------------------------------------------------> Articles may not be reproduced without the express written consent of Evan Marc Katz. Copyright © 2015 Evan Marc Katz. All Rights Reserved. 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